How Drama Taught Me That Perspective is Hella Important


“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”

Abraham Lincoln

I received a wonderful compliment today.

A friend sent me a message telling me how wonderful she thinks it is that I post photos on Facebook of my kids while they are on vacation with their dads, celebrating the happiness they are experiencing.

I so appreciated her kind words, but it doesn’t strike me as odd to do what I do.

I admit, there was a time when, especially with my second ex-husband, I would never have even acknowledged anything good he did with our daughter.

So, what changed?

My focus.  I choose now to appreciate all the good that my kids and I experience.  Does that mean there are no rough patches?  Hell, no.  But instead of allowing those to consume my mind and heart, I treat them as what they are:  fleeting.  The happiness is what lasts; the good is what stays consistent; the love my children experience is what remains.

Just like every other parent, I want what’s best for my children.  I am okay with the fact that I will not be the one to provide all of that for them.  I can’t possibly – and I wouldn’t dream of denying them the best just because I can’t be the one to give it to them.  When I began to focus on what I appreciate in general, this was a natural shift that occurred.

A shift in perspective is all it takes.  Life will shift accordingly.

Love and light,




When have you shifted perspective and noticed a positive shift in your life?  Leave a comment below.

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