“I was referred to Melissa through a friend. And a little back story… I consider myself a strong, bright, independent woman. Not really the damsel in distress type, or the type to gravitate toward drama and bring it into my life. I am getting my doctorate, I come from a loving family, and I have a variety of interests and many things I feel like I am good at. Nevertheless, I was in a negative place and I didn’t really understand how I got there. I spent a long time in a toxic relationship and I always felt that I must have brought this on myself. My self-esteem had reached a real low at this point. Melissa really helped me find myself again. After a number of things in my life brought me to a place that just was not right and was not where I wanted to be, Melissa helped me re-connect with who I really am. I can’t even begin to express the gratitude I have for finding her and how she opened my mind to things that have changed me and my way of thinking to the very core. I now have a truly beautiful life that just keeps getting better. I look forward to waking up every day and after dealing with years of anxiety including social anxiety and bouts of depression, I feel like I am free from negative thoughts and negative beliefs. Melissa has a way about her that is warm, and inspiring. She brings you back to the positive person who you are and opens up your life in ways you never understood or imagined. Melissa puts things into perspective in a way that I have never had a therapist do. I now have a budding dating experience with a man who seems to be everything I have dreamed of. I am getting along with others so well, and my friendships are deepening. Positive things happen to me on a daily basis and it seems like “everything is always working out for me.” Any woman or even man who feels like they just can’t get their life together or have fallen into a slump should talk to Melissa. Especially women who have dealt with an abusive partner. It will change your life and give you your freedom back!” – E.L.
The most helpful thing was learning how to trust my instincts.
I didn’t use to trust my instincts before, but now I can tell if someone is not “right” for me as a friend, or any other type of relationship. So that is really helpful 🙂
Right after the divorce I felt light as a feather, and all day next day I was happy, and I realized that was the real me.
I wasn’t afraid of how I would figure things out, or if I would be lonely etc.
The other thing was realizing that I was in a toxic marriage (now it’s like “duh – of course, it was toxic”), and recognizing how I attracted him in into my life.
The Guide to Overcoming Toxic Relationships in particular helped me to peel off the layers of unhappiness I was feeling, day by day, until I realized that I had to get out.
It all made sense after the exercises – why I was feeling the way I did, and the toxic cycle I was living in.
I made peace with who I was at the time, and I learned to love myself (and my old self) even though now I see that all the signs were there right from the start.
I can imagine how traumatic post-divorce could be, but I am feeling confident that I will figure out everything as it comes along.
I approached Melissa during an incredibly difficult time in my life. I was trying to navigate a very tricky divorce. I was overwhelmed, scared, and alone. I reached out to Melissa for a discovery call to see if working with her could help. It was one of the very best decisions I have ever made.
Melissa UNDERSTOOD. She was the very first person who actually understood what I was going through. Friends and family really do try to help, but if they have never dealt with a narcissist before, they don’t really understand. Melissa HEARD me, she listened and she understood. She didn’t dismiss me and my concerns. She gets it, she really, truly does.
Melissa gave me action steps and practical advice to apply in my life, which have been unbelievably helpful. She has calmed my fears about leaving him, and taught me the skills to deal with him going forward (we have small children together). I know that I would not be handling this so calmly and rationally without her help. Working with Melissa has been nothing short of a life-changing experience.
I cannot recommend Melissa enough. She has truly been an enormous blessing to me. If you are dealing with a toxic person in your life, you owe it to yourself to contact Melissa.
I approached Melissa because I really needed some help with handling day to day life as a stay at home mom. I needed tools to help me help my kids with issues that come up on a daily basis. I needed an ear to listen, who could offer support, ideas, and encouragement.
Melissa helped me by focusing on the future, versus dwelling on the past. The main thing she helped me overcome is the constant mom guilt I often felt.
The result was huge! I have felt a tremendous shift on how i handle problems, how i view myself as a parent, and on moving on from mistakes. She also helped me realize that it’s more than OK, it’s necessary, to care for myself and do things to help me feel fulfilled as a person, not just a mother.
One thing I liked was Melissa’s positive encouragement. She always focuses on the positive, and how to move forward with new tools given any current situation.
I found the experience to be motivating. I felt like I could say anything, and there was no judgment, only “ok, let’s try some tools to see if we can make this better.”
I would recommend Melissa to people who need tools to manage difficult situations, who feel stuck and don’t know how to start making some real change in their lives. We all want to change things in our lives to some extent right? But it’s so hard do it alone. Melissa has been such an inspiration to me through her newsletter and her Facebook page as well. Anyone who wants tools that work could benefit from her coaching.
I approached Melissa because she has a tendency to give the world’s best advice. Melissa helped me by truly empathizing with my situation. I really feel like I’m being heard when I talk to her. The result was that I felt a wonderful sense of relief after speaking with her. One thing I liked was her ability to get to the heart of the problem and give me tangible action to take. I found the experience to be extremely satisfying. I would recommend Melissa to people who need help with taking action in order to live a happier, more productive, less stressful life!
Melissa is someone who I absolutely admire, envy and cherish. Her strength has gotten me through some rough stuff (and talked me out of making what could have been bad decisions). I love the light she shines upon others and the compassion and understanding that she gives everyone, because we already have enough people who judge. She is a single mother, who is also somehow a village, raising her three amazing, unique and strong willed children. Defeat is not in her vocabulary. But CONQUER is.
Denise M., LNA
Melissa has a positive energy that is inspiring. I have been fortunate enough to be able to have her as a support in my life and her kind, reaffirming words have helped me tremendously. Whether it’s building me up after an emotional fall or bringing a smile to my face when I feel lost, Melissa has a way of listening that goes beyond what most people I know are capable of. She is an amazing role model for women everywhere and her dedication to self-improvement I strive to echo in my daily life.
Michele G., BASW