“Some people live in cages with bars built from their own fears and doubts. Some people live in cages with bars built from other people’s fears and doubts; their parents, their friends, their brothers and sisters, their families. Some people live in cages with bars built from the choices others made for them, the circumstances other people imposed upon them. And some people break free.”
― C. JoyBell C.
As my Bootcamp program is gearing up to start for the next session, more and more women are coming out of the proverbial woodwork. They want out. They need out. Their bodies, by way of pains and illness and mental health issues, are telling them it’s time to break the hell out.
But a lot of times we need an extra nudge. We need that push in order to feel the moment of clarity when we finally, truly realize: NO MORE.
Here are 22 quotes to help inspire you to that clarity:
1 “You have the right to your own ideas and opinions, to make your own decisions, and to have things go your way at times.” – Beverly Engel
2 “Never let someone who contributes so little to the relationship control so much of it.” – Anonymous
3 “Poisonous relationships can alter our perception. You can spend many years thinking you’re worthless. But you’re not worthless. You’re underappreciated.” – Steve Maraboli
4 “Just because the scars have healed, doesn’t mean the pain has.” – Anonymous
5 “Don’t let someone who doesn’t know your value tell you what you’re worth.” – Anonymous
6 “After a series of traumas, one can lose the capacity to feel fear appropriately.” – Jessica Stern
7 “People who feel the need to control others, don’t have control over themselves.” – Anonymous
8 “I refuse to please others at the expense of my emotional well being. Even if it means saying “no” to people who are used to hearing ‘yes’.” – Anonymous
9 “I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” – C.G. Jung
10 “You survived the abuse. You’re going to survive the recovery.” – Anonymous
11 “No one is ever a victim, although your conquerors would have you believe in your own victimhood. How else could they conquer you?” – Barbara Marciniak
12 “When it comes to abuse, you believe there’s no way out. There is always help. There is always a way out.” – Rev. Donna Mulvey
13 There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.” – Laurell K. Hamilton
14 “Find the strength inside yourself to value your own worth more than staying with someone who only keeps you down.” – Anonymous
15 One’s dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.” – Michael J. Fox
16 “The walls between you and I always pushed us apart. It left nothing but scars fight after fight. And I’m done with you not treating me right” – Francine Chiar
17 “It´s never too late to do the right thing.” – J.E. Mathewson
18 “… you don’t have to wait for someone to treat you bad repeatedly. All it takes is once, and if they get away with it that once, if they know they can treat you like that, then it sets the pattern for the future.” – Jane Green
19 “All too often women believe it is a sign of commitment, an expression of love, to endure unkindness or cruelty, to forgive and forget. In actuality, when we love rightly we know that the healthy, loving response to cruelty and abuse is putting ourselves out of harm’s way.” – Bell Hooks
20 “Don’t judge yourself by what others did to you.” – C. Kennedy
21 “The scars from mental cruelty can be as deep and long-lasting as wounds from punches or slaps but are often not as obvious. In fact, even among women who have experienced violence from a partner, half or more report that the man’s emotional abuse is what is causing them the greatest harm.” – Lundy Bancroft
22 “Has he ever trapped you in a room and not let you out?
Has he ever raised a fist as if he were going to hit you?
Has he ever thrown an object that hit you or nearly did?
Has he ever held you down or grabbed you to restrain you?
Has he ever shoved, poked, or grabbed you?
Has he ever threatened to hurt you?
If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then we can stop wondering whether he’ll ever be violent; he already has been.” – Lundy Bancroft
Breaking free from the toxic relationship is vital, but it’s not enough. You must break the toxic relationship pattern. You deserve to truly be free from those kinds of relationships for good.
With love and light,
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